That’s what her therapist says she has.
I have been reading a lot of books. Each and every one speaks about how the partner that was true almost always develops PTSD.
Trauma is the cause. Spousal betrayal is a very traumatic event. She spoke about how she knew it was going on. That there weren’t a lot of surprises. Maybe so. Hearing your suspicions confirmed sizes traumatic experience.
I was traumatized on September 20th when she revealed, “I don’t like sex, I don’t want to have it and I will not have it.” I had always known this was the case. But to actually hear those words was incredibly painful.
So it goes with my infidelity and her trauma.
She told her therapist about how feeling my privates when in bed makes her constantly remember the cheating. “That’s your trigger. He’s not going to like it, but the only thing that stops that is time between triggers.”
She is finally beginning to accept that this is a big fucking deal.
I told her that I would be pleasantly shocked if we had any type of sexual encounter between now and June. I also said I would be pleasantly surprised if we had an en encounter before Christmas 2014.
“Are you ok with that? Will you stay with me?”
I told you before, I am with you wether sex ever happens again or not.
“What will that do to you?”
I don’t know.
I find it CRAZY that she asked me if I would stay with her. What!? I betrayed her and she’s asking if I’m staying with her.
I don’t think we will ever be intimate, sexually, ever again. That part of our marriage is dead.