I JUST saw a great quote on Twitter that totally confirms my recent pivot in mindset:
Your marriage will be happier when you give your spouse a bit of your heart instead of a piece of your mind.
That, gentle readers, is a friggin’ piece of genius right there.
It’s kind of interesting how things in my life have changed since I’ve tried to refocus my thinking. Look at things through the lens of compassion and you see the world in a different way. People are hurting, people have needs that are going unmet, people are lonely- even when surrounded by others.
Personally, I have had those experiences and I’ll be damned if I’m going to further contribute to someone else’s any longer. The pain sucks and knowing I cause the pain sucks.
Knowing I can be a part of the solution and bring peace and joy into their life is a satisfying feeling. I like satisfying feelings. They kind of make me feel good…
That brings me back to that quote. It took My Wife giving a piece of HER heart to make me give a piece of mine. When she did, I instantly melted. Frustrations evaporated immediately. Not all of them, but enough for me to understand the situation. I had already started the transition to compassion. My Wife hit me in the face with it and pushed me knee deep into the compassion mind-set.
I’m not going back. It’s far too precious a place to be.
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