Here’s a big thing for me right here
I spent a LOT of time online looking for relevant articles and solutions. Anything and everything I found was applied to our marriage. Everything I did made our problems worse and completely ignored the root issue- my healing.
I guess that if I was able to “fix” our marriage, I would also fix myself. That would also mean I wasn’t alone. By US needing to be fixed, I was only a part of the problem and not the majority of the problem.
This was another manifestation of selfishness. WE are broken and in need of help.
Only after getting kicked out of my home and my marriage coming to the bloody edge was I able to see what the problems were.
There are far more issues than I could ever document. But I’m figuring things out. By my figuring things out, My Bride will more easily figure things out. It’s what I’d like to think of as a healing snowball.