I just came across this article over healing from sexual addiction. in it, the author provides FOUR basic ingredients for successful recovery.
First, an addict of any kind needs accountability.
Second, an addict must have support.
Third, an addict must have counseling.
Finally, an addict cannot fully engage in recovery without a firm faith life.
This is Immensely interesting to me. I have been rock solid on points 2 and 3 for a very long time. It wasn’t until I went back to church, encountered Pastor and FINALLY surrendered to God that points 1 and 4 came about. Pastor is my accountability partner. While my faith life is yet to be firm, it’s at least moving in a positive direction.
I really don’t believe that recovery is the same for each person. I don’t now at least. When I first admitted I was an addict I had to trust my therapist. He was the expert at this stuff. I was the junkie looking for help. I was feeling utter hopelessness when I couldn’t get into the Sexaholics Anonymous program. I felt even worse last weekend when my Celebrate Recovery sponsor called and told me I was probably needing to wait for another step study group. I told him that what I thought of these groups. Sit around a table, read from a book, listen to guys bull crap their answers (I don’t have any animosity for anyone. I have an amazing spiritual life…I guess that’s why they’re at this meeting), and go home. There’s no recovery in that, just wasted time. The other thing with CR- once you’ve completed all 12 steps of the study, you’re considered recovered. Bull.Crap.
It was through the smallest of interactions with fellow Christians that started healing. I am by no means thinking I’M ON THE WAY! I do think that I’ve taken a few positive steps and those steps add up to big steps. Those big steps add up to a walk and the walk adds up to a journey. THAT is what I have been missing and THAT is what I have found!