“A lot of people go through their 90 days of abstinence and think they can jump right back into sex.”
-My Bride’s Therapist.
When we were discussing the abstinence plan, my wife finally said, “Be ready for March 10th because it’s gonna be on then.” I thought this was a really odd thing for her to say. She isn’t in to sex and hadn’t been for, at least, 5 years. Why the announcement?
I began planning a vacation. The last time we went anywhere as a couple, longer than a day, was for our 10th anniversary. We just celebrated our 21st in August. I started showing her my ideas last night. When we speak of travel, I speak on terms of Europe. Her ideal trip is to a cabin in the woods. And that is my plan exactly.
We began looking at our choices last night. One had a pool table. The sex addict’s mind immediately thought, “Hey, I can do her on that!” My bride, before I could even shake my dirty thought said, “Maybe you can do me on that.”
Really? We laughed when I told her I had just had the thought but refused to voice it.
Cut to this evening.
She was discussing her therapy session with me. She had said all she was going to say. I couldn’t stand it anymore. “You said you would mention our 90 days of abstinence. Did you?” She had. “I hope this doesn’t upset you…” Uh-oh. That’s a scary way to begin a statement.
Therapist said, “A lot of people go through their 90 days of abstinence and think they can jump right back into sex.”
“She says that we might just end up kissing some at the first few days.”
Right. I wasn’t expecting much (I truly wasn’t). “I’m so sorry.”
Why? I’m not getting the cabin just for sex.
No. I fully expect us to MAYBE be making out. If we just kiss, fine. If we do heavy petting, fine. If everything is on the table, fine”
She thought I was scheduling the vacation just for sex. I’m not. We haven’t had any major time together alone for over 11 years. I want to be with her. Anything is will be an awesome bonus.