No You Won’t

This evening was supposed to be great. We went to our support groups tonight. This was my Bride’s first try. I knew it was shitty when the lady that runs everything said, “See you next time” and my wife responded, under her breath with “No you won’t.”

She said “No you won’t” as she rocketed out of the church. I had to walk a little more than briskly to keep up. She was in, as she put it, a full blown panic attack.

These groups are supposed to be a positive experience. A community of like minded people going through similar situations. My group is like that. Hers was not.

“It was just a bunch of women bitching about their husbands. ‘Tell is your name, what the problem is and if you acted out this last week.’ I haven’t acted out! I’m not at this group because of something I did!”

You might say she was displeased.
The issues were: husband sleeps with prostitutes, husband is addicted to porn and did it in front of the kids, husband has passed on STD’s multiple times- I’m so pissed, husband looked at porn 30 years ago and she still hates him.

“This was totally a 12 step thing. I don’t need a 12 step program. I need support! I think this program is only for women whose husbands are actively in their addiction and not seeking help. Out of all the women there, 2 of is had husbands on a program. Me and the lady leading the group (her husband runs my group.”

This was a shitty night for her. Never before have I seen her rush out of church in tears before. Never.

This is a major church. As in a huge ministry. I’m shocked this is allowed to take place. Then again, those sessions are supposed to be confidential. Nothing leaves this room type of stuff. Nowhere in the program’s description does it mention 12 step. It talks about a positive transformation. That wasn’t it. It was the epitome of misleading.

My heart hurts for her. I’m pissed off about this and I want to kick someone’s ass; I know that is inappropriate.

There are really only a few other groups on our area that might end up working out. Her therapist has something she can hook my Bride up with. I’m praying she will be able to gather up the courage and go.

About MyJourney

I'm a 41 year old married father of 3. I am a sex addict. This blog is to document my progress, recovery and marital growth. Pornography is an evil creation. Let my experiences serve as a warning to all.
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1 Response to No You Won’t

  1. Jayelle says:

    My heart breaks for her!!! The online support group that I belong to is run by Marsha who wrote the trauma model book!! email me if she wants to know more … or anything …. she doesn’t have to share anything, but I soooo get her! I found Marsha’s group the day after discovery and it has made the world of difference for me and the other girls! There are groups within the wider community and you can join both, one, either, whatever …. my email is … no pressure, but I am here if she wants to know more!!! ….ugh… it is tough being on this side but she is NOT alone! No bitching here, no blame here, and soooo much understanding and love !!

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