Jerks, Annoyances, And Success

What a tremendous day yesterday! It was the first day of fall break and I slept to the crack of 8 AM.

Later on, I had a disagreement with My Wife and made it through un-triggered.

There were some incredibly tense times at the football game. Some lady kept yelling and screaming at our team, her own SON’S team. Great, supportive comments like:
“What’s wrong with you guys?”
“Why can’t you guys score!?”
“You get the ball RIGHT THERE and can’t score!? COME ON!!!!”

When you add that to Loud Cowbell Lady (it hurts my already messed up ear), it puts a LOT of stress on me. I’ve got Jerk-Wad Mom several rows directly behind me, Loud Cowbell Lady behind and to my left. My mental state was on edge. My Father-In-Law was in a similar state as me; highly stressed and on edge. We talked about it all night.
“I think I may need to drink tonight.”
‘Drinking might not get it.’
“I have great pain meds, we can both check out for a few days if you’d like.”
We had a good laugh.

The great thing about it, somehow I was able to stay focused on my enjoyment of the game. I’d do a quick breathing exercise or a non-judge mental observation exercise. Whatever it took to stay present and mindful of the situation.

Jerk-Wad and Cowbell Lady ended up being annoyances and not the focus of my evening. Make mo mistake, it was a major struggle. I had to work my ass off to keep my head straight, but I did it.

Several times I’d bitch about it to My Wife. She would tell me it was bugging her too, but she wasn’t making a deal out of it. I didn’t know if she was rebuking me or telling me to just deal with it or both. I took it as both. There was no offense taken. I just dealt with it.

After the game, I asked her if I did ok.
“Was I am asshole or a jerk?”
No, why do you always ask me that?
“Because I want to know. I’m trying to be a good guy.”
I really appreciate you making conversation with my family. Usually you don’t do that.

That was it.
No true argument. No negativity.
A disagreement, a solution and annoyances at a game.
I made it through, unscathed.
It was a successful day!!

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About MyJourney

I'm a 41 year old married father of 3. I am a sex addict. This blog is to document my progress, recovery and marital growth. Pornography is an evil creation. Let my experiences serve as a warning to all.
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One Response to Jerks, Annoyances, And Success

  1. My H would have been freaking out too. Understandable, but you kept the peace and that’s the important thing. šŸ˜‰

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