Keeping Score And Seeing Other’s Problems

This guy emailed his wife a spreadsheet of all the times she turned him down for sex AND her reasons why over a 7 week period. SHE posted it to reddit.

That link takes you to a stupid video in which the headline reads something to the effect of, Man Discovers The Quickest Way To End Marriage. The “story” speaks about the reddit comments in response to the wife’s post. The one that caught my attention.

“If I were rejected 89% of the time, I know my self-confidence and my confidence in my relationship would be shot.”

I have 2 major comments about that comment.

1. I WISH I had an 11% success rate. I would kill for that type of progress. I think I’m currently sitting somewhere under .01% for the year.

Today is September 17, the 260th day of the year. My wife and I have made love twice and that was early June.

My success rate for the year is 0.00769%
It was actually far worse than I had thought.
Holy SHIT!
That is, of course assuming I requested sex every day.
Since I’ve been accused of constantly hounding my wife for sex, let’s remove 30% of those days.
260-78= 182
For a success rate of 0.11%

That’s still pretty damned low.

Let’s cook the books some more.

Another 30%
260-156= 104 hounding attempts
For a success rate of 0.192%

I would KILL puppies for that 11% success rate, you asshole. Don’t keep track of her intimacy like that and SHARE it with her.

2. Yes, this type of thing destroys the confidence of all involved, Mr. Commenter on that news site, dude.

It’s not fun for her either.
She doesn’t wake up looking for ways to disappoint her husband.


About MyJourney

I'm a 41 year old married father of 3. I am a sex addict. This blog is to document my progress, recovery and marital growth. Pornography is an evil creation. Let my experiences serve as a warning to all.
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2 Responses to Keeping Score And Seeing Other’s Problems

  1. I’ve actually found myself wanting to make a spreadsheet for several years now myself. Though I wouldn’t have given it to him in an email, I understand the frustrations. We don’t know what else is going on in their marriage and perhaps he’s just a douche. Or maybe she’s just a bitch. Or maybe she’s just overly exhausted for who knows why with an underlying illness or something. Maybe there was infidelity somewhere which can totally throw a curveball.

    He now has proof to back up his “We never have sex”. And obviously they need to talk.

    • MyJourney says:

      This post was very bad news at my house come to find out. My wife told me how much it hurt her feelings yesterday.

      While the CONCEPT of keeping track sounds ok, IT’S NOT.

      SHE was hurt by it.

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