This article is the closest thing I’ve ever found that describes how I feel.
It was a PDF of the what to do know that your spouse knows about your affair and how to help them recover.
It was interesting to see My Bride’s condition is accurately detailed by so many of the descriptors in the document. It’s quite scary. It’s also immensely educational. I FINALLY have some sort of clue as to what’s going on in her head. As she said, it’s not perfect, but I have something to work with now.
I go back to what my sponsor said- “Work your recovery for you, not the sake of your marriage.” I had a commenter take me to task today, partially rightfully so 😉 for the same thing. One thing she said stuck out to me. “Work on the thing inside of you that keeps you here.”
THAT, dear reader, was worth getting out of bed for today.
I truly do welcome comments. However, I will get defensive, just like any other human, if your comment starts off guns blazing. If you’re going to take me to task, please start gently and ease me into it. As a guy with pretty strong mental illness, I have a propensity to SNAP off when given immediate harshness.