“You’ve written your inventory and have been coming in here for about a month now talking about all the things that are wrong. This next week I want you to think about what’s right. On your blog, why don’t you write about what would make your wife want to be married to you. What have you been improving on? Get into that”
I like that idea so much, I’m turning it into a series.
October 2013 was when I finally admitted I had a problem with my life. Before I had blamed everyone else. I won’t say that I had fully come to grips with the facts of life yet, but, like the Emperor’s New clothes, my superiority had been seen through and I could no longer hide. I’m very proud of that simile btw.
What’s right about that? I had accepted responsibility for something major for the first time in my entire life. That acceptance led me to accept responsibility for the unspeakable damage I had caused to My Bride. These are incredibly painful things, especially to be claimed as something that went right. But they are things that went right.
No longer was I leading a secret life. No longer was I lying to My Bride or hiding things from her. No longer was I denying her accusations or probing questions. I can’t say I could hold my head high, that ain’t true, but I CAN say I told the truth for the first time.
I have taken on recovery from addiction. Yes, it could probably be included up above, but I’m the author and I can organize this drivel as I see fit 😜 I have embraced sobriety and made it a priority in my life. While I make
pa-lenty of countless mistakes in this area, I’m trying. I could never say that before.
I am trying to put the needs of My Bride before my needs. Again, this is another area I eff up a lot. I’ve never done this before. I find myself asking how I can serve her.
I have re-established my relationship with God.
I have understood the core issues affecting our marriage.
Every single thing that I listed is brand new to my life. I could write the wrong things in my life until my phone dies. Today, I choose to go the other way.