“It is the process itself that leads to healing. The very experiences of being patient, having self-doubt, wondering what else tou have to go through, going through copious amounts of time thinking and going through exercises that seem pointless are the things that rebuild your marriage.”
Know THAT is a comment I can sink my teeth into. THAT makes sense. The comment went on to say that every time I reach out to her for help we not only restart the process but add more to deal with.
She also said working on me IS working on our marriage. Ok, I can see that too.
THAT makes sense. I understand that.
Point taken.
Thank you.
My Journey Through Sex Addiction 
She gave you great insight!